It rarely arrives with a name.
If you recognise yourself here, you are in the right place. The clearest indicator is not a diagnosis or a history. It is the gap between understanding and relief.
Now, let's find out what to call it.
Not a diagnosis. Three plain-language shapes this often takes. See which one fits.
“Something happened, again and again, and it shaped who you became.”
Repeated, often relational trauma that shapes how you feel, trust, and see yourself.
Read more about CPTSD →“You feel disconnected, like you're watching your life from somewhere outside it.”
A protective response to overwhelm that became a lasting pattern.
Read more about dissociation →“Nothing bad really happened. But something is still missing, and you don't know why.”
The wound of what never came: attunement, protection, acknowledgment.
Read more about omission trauma →Still not sure? A free Discovery Call is the fastest way to find out. No need to arrive with the right word for it. Book a free discovery call
Four moves. Each building on the last.
The wound is not only in the narrative. Reaching it requires a different kind of contact.
What change can look like.
Rarely a breakthrough. More often a small moment where the old pattern doesn't run, and something new becomes possible.
A life that was objectively successful and subjectively empty. She had reached every goal she had set. Nothing had landed.
She simply was. And for the first time, that was survivable.
His third long-term relationship ended the same way. He could explain avoidant patterns with precision, and wanted to understand why the insight changed nothing.
Closeness was no longer the same as loss.
Present, functional, considered warm by everyone who knew him. But from inside, a persistent sense of watching rather than being.
He was simply there. It lasted a few seconds. It was enough to know the direction.
Four ways in, one method underneath.
Individual, group, self-paced or intensive. The right entry point is established in the first conversation, not assumed in advance.
One-to-oneIndividual Sessions Best if you want to go deep, one-to-one. From US$256
One-to-one work using EMDR, Schema Therapy, and somatic processing, tailored to whichever of the three you are carrying. The first session is a 75-minute assessment: your history, what you want to change, and a clear plan.
- ·Sessions of 50 or 75 minutes, weekly or more often
- ·Online worldwide, or in person across Asia
- ·No package required
Live groupStarts 5 January 2027The Healthy Adult Group Best if you want change alongside others who get it. US$1,600
Eight weeks of live group work: inner safety, mapping, voice work, and repair, alongside others who understand without explanation. A guided stabilisation group, not group psychotherapy: best if you feel reasonably steady day to day and aren't in crisis right now.
- ·Eight sessions of 75 minutes
- ·Tuesdays, 7:00 to 8:15pm HKT, from 5 January 2027
- ·Apply with a few short questions and a free 20-minute call
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The Adult Within workbook, free for group members
Self-pacedLaunch offer · 25% offOn-Demand Course
Best if you want to understand first, at your own pace.
US$615 US$820
Seven hours of clinical framework: the precise language for what you have been carrying, why it formed, and what reaching it actually requires.
- ·Seven modules, with workbook and audio
- ·One live Q&A with me, if you join by 15 January
- ·US$300 credit towards the Healthy Adult Group, if you join by 15 January
Intensive formatEMDR & Trauma Intensives Best if you're ready to work through something specific, fast. From US$1,150
The same clinical work, delivered in a longer, condensed format: half a day up to several days, or spread over several weeks, instead of an hour a week. Often the most direct route through, for people ready to go deeper than a weekly cadence allows.
- ·Single-incident: half a day to a few days, focused on one specific event. Half day from US$1,150 · full day from US$2,200
- ·Story-clearing: several days, or spread over several weeks, working through the fuller arc of what happened. From US$4,000
- ·Includes a preparation call and a follow-up session. Your exact plan and price are set together on the discovery call.
Prices in US dollars. Payments are processed in Hong Kong dollars (HK$) at the equivalent rate, so the exact amount in your currency shows at checkout. Receipts include my registration details, so you can claim where your insurance covers a registered clinical psychologist.
Not sure yet?
What if I have never done therapy before?
That's a good place to start from. There's no prerequisite beyond recognising yourself in what this page describes. The Discovery Call is the simplest first step, and once it launches, the course will give you the framework and language before any live work begins.
Do I need to start with the course?
No. There is a logical order to the course, the group and individual sessions, but it isn't mandatory. If you've already done significant work, individual sessions or an intensive may be the right place to start. We work that out together on the Discovery Call, and you leave with a clear direction.
How long before something shifts?
Some people notice a change in how they relate to themselves early on, not because the wound is gone, but because it finally has a name. Deeper shifts, in the feeling state rather than the story, develop through the live work. There's no fixed answer. But this isn't an indefinite process: the method is designed to move.
What's the difference between individual sessions and an intensive?
Both are one-to-one work using the same methods: EMDR, Schema Therapy and somatic processing. Individual sessions run in a weekly rhythm of 50 or 75 minutes, suited to steady, ongoing work. An intensive condenses the same work into an extended block, from half a day to several days or several weeks, for when there's a specific memory or period to move through more directly, or when a weekly rhythm isn't enough. Many people use both at different points.
Do I have to talk about specific memories?
Not in the group. The Healthy Adult Group is about stabilisation, not trauma processing: building the inner resources that make processing possible later. You won't be asked to recount memories or explain your history there. The work is present-focused: what's happening in you now, which parts are active, and what they need. In individual sessions and intensives, memory work only begins when you're ready for it.
Is the group safe, and will it feel exposing?
Both are fair questions. The group is capped at 10, every application is reviewed individually, and the first two weeks focus entirely on building inner safety before anything deeper begins. Most people arrive expecting the group to be the hard part, and find that sitting with others who already understand, without having to justify any of it, is one of the most relieving parts of the process.
Where are you based, and can I work with you from where I live?
Sessions are online, so where you live matters less than you might think. I work with clients in Hong Kong, Bangkok, Bali and across Asia, and with people further afield in Europe, Australia and beyond. In-person sessions across Asia are possible by arrangement; we talk it through on the Discovery Call.
Which time zone are sessions in?
I work on Asian time, GMT+7 to GMT+8. If you're further away, we find a time that works for both of us on the Discovery Call.
Which languages do you work in?
Individual sessions in English or German. The Healthy Adult Group runs in English.
What is the cancellation policy?
Individual sessions: please give at least 48 hours' notice. Later cancellations may be charged in full, except in a genuine emergency such as sudden illness, injury or a family emergency. The Healthy Adult Group: a full refund if you cancel more than 14 days before the start date; after that, no refund, but your place may be moved to a later cohort. The course: a full refund within 14 days of purchase, as long as you haven't gone beyond the first module.
Can I claim the cost on insurance?
Reimbursement is available in many jurisdictions. You'll receive receipts with my professional registration details to submit to your insurer. Check your policy for cover of a registered clinical psychologist.
The Discovery Call.
20 minutes with me, one-to-one. You will leave knowing whether this work is right for you, at no cost and no commitment.
Book a time → we talk for 20 minutes → you leave with a clear recommendation.
This work is for adults (18+). I can't offer crisis or emergency support: if you are in danger right now, contact your local emergency number or find a helpline at Befrienders Worldwide.
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A gentle first introduction: what the inner child is, how to recognise when it's speaking, and how to begin making contact.
How invisible trauma, emotional neglect and attachment wounds shape us, and how we learn to heal.
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